FYI 🙂 The head photo is just a bridal photoshoot for fun.
Ok! Let’s do this! Since Casey popped the big question I promised myself I will not be one of those brides that always brag about every single wedding planning detail on social media. But after some time I started receiving questions from friends and my lovely followers about how the wedding planning is going. As my big day is in exactly a month from now (I KNOW!!!) I finally decided to answer some of your questions and tell you how I planned my small, intimate wedding.
I feel like first I need to tell you that I was never a fan of big weddings. I mean weddings are beautiful and I enjoy those events as a guest but I never wanted a big one for myself personally. When we finally sat down to plan, I knew that I wanted to keep it very small, intimate and kind of quiet. But then, how do you plan a wedding when you are in a long distance relationship? At the time I still lived in Manchester, UK and Casey in Los Angeles. I knew that as much as I love Manchester and I could get married there, it would be a lot of hustle because Casey has more siblings than I do. I just thought we can come up with something more convenient for our families too. Weddings in LA are a very expensive thing and also… we are not big fans of LA. Then we thought of Oklahoma. That’s where Casey is from, his family lives there and we both love the Oklahoma vibe!
Next minute we were on the plane to Tulsa. I found a beautiful venue called Dream Point Ranch and I just knew this is it! It was green, the venue was so beautiful inside too and I could just see myself there. I could see myself walking down. I could see my two beautiful bridesmaids.I could see a beautiful cake made by my mum. I could hear the laughs of our closest family and friends while we’re having a buffet style nice dinner. And that’s where the wedding planning started to go downhill for me. Yuup, you read that right.
We booked Dream Point Ranch for April 6th 2020. The owner of the venue was so lovely. She walked us round, gave us loads and loads of contacts to different vendors. Unfortunately the more questions I was being asked, the more overwhelming feeling I was getting. Once again…but how do you plan a wedding?! I felt co clueless.
I listened to some of my more experienced friends. People have been telling me to plan one thing at the time. Flowers, cake etc.
So I did. I started researching different vendors and I started sending emails, texts. I found contacting people really hard because of the time difference, being so far away, not being able just to pop to places to actually see and discuss things in person. Every time I made some sort of arrangements I would worry and stress, but how will that actually work on the day? Do I have to go pick it up myself? Will they deliver? How will I keep it fresh? At some point I started to worry that this little, intimate wedding I had in my head will look like an absolute unorganised disaster.
I stopped enjoying it. I wanted to get married, but wedding planning was so overwhelming. And I couldn’t understand why. Was it because of the distance? Was it because of my lack of experience? I mean I never ever planned a wedding before! Was it because of small cultural differences? But then how do you plan a wedding in England? I haven’t been to that many weddings in Poland either. My head was just all over the place non stop. This awful feeling was giving me anxiety!
One day I finally contacted the owner of the venue and she was so supportive. She calmed me down. She listened carefully to my concerns and she simply advised me to hire a coordinator. That even for a small wedding like ours, coordinator will be a massive help. I discussed it with Casey and we both agreed that it would help to have professional help and someone to manage our day for us, so we can fully focus on enjoying ourselves.
Not long after that I hired Bethany. She told me to book all my vendors that I want and then she asked me how I imagined our wedding. She explained that she will start her work a month before our wedding and basically she will get all the details on vendors, my vision, plans and she will work out the logistics and then she will manage everything on the day. So that means she will make sure everything is in the right place and guests are where they are supposed to be. I felt relieved. It was so nice to get professional advice, to have someone directing me the right way.
Unfortunately my relief feeling didn’t last long. The airline I worked for years collapsed and announced liquidation at the end of September 2019. I couldn’t think about the wedding. I had to think what my next step in life will be. What I will do for work, how this will impact my long distance relationship, do I stay in England and go for other airlines or do I pack my stuff and finally go be with Casey…
Wedding planning has been placed on hold. We were still going ahead with 6th of April, it’s just at this moment and time I couldn’t think of what other vendors I need to book or what colour flowers I should pick.
Even though good things have happened to me since the collapse of Thomas Cook such as Casey and I finally moving in together, yet I still didn’t enjoy the planning part. I picked my wedding dress back in the UK and it arrived in the UK. My Mum brought it with her when she came to visit us. I loved my dress but deep down I was upset that I didn’t get to try my dress in a bridal shop with my bridesmaids. I didn’t have the moment when you walk out of the fitting room and your bridal gang goes “Aww” I felt like because of how my life changed within a week, I don’t get to experience little things that come with a wedding dress. I was also worried about my bridesmaids as they also both worked for the airline. So we were in the same boat of facing a loss of the job.
It took me awhile to swallow the collapse of Thomas Cook. Next minute it was the end of January and I still didn’t have a reverend or a wedding photographer. Then in early February it turned out we will need catering rather than having someone we know to cook. The anxiety and overwhelming feeling was back. On top of that I started to feel a little bit homesick.
Thankfully, my coordinator was always there to give me a good word of advice and guidance. She made recommendations on all the other vendors that we were missing. Finally… We are here, a month before the wedding and my coordinator steps in. I was worried that she would think the whole thing looked so messy, unorganized. She finally called me to ask me more questions, get all the details she needs to wrap up all our plans and arrangements in one final piece. When she finally placed it all in timeline and explained how she planned it all for us, how she will manage the day, I finally felt relieved again. I could see it all working! I finally felt the excitement and butterflies.
So here it was, my story about wedding planning. Even though I didn’t enjoy it as much as I thought I would, I feel like we had such a great support system. Owner of the Dream Point Ranch couldn’t be more helpful and so is Bethany – our coordinator. I may not have enjoyed the planning but I definitely learned a lot. I did pickup on don’ts and do’s while planning a wedding. I will for sure follow up this blog post with another one with tips on how to plan a small/elopement wedding.
I can’t believe we will be getting married in a month! Did you enjoy planning your wedding? Check out the gallery below to see our venue inside and out and also some of the flowers we have ordered. What you think?